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Is
It Possible to Have Too Much Emotional Intelligence?
By: Susan Dunn
Someone emailed me recently, "Do you think it's possible
to have too much emotional intelligence going on? To the point that perhaps logic
takes a backseat?"
Good question. The fact is, we need both IQ and EQ. You can't have "too much"
emotional intelligence, but that doesn't mean at the expense of logic.
It's time to use logic, for instance, when figuring out a budget, or making a
timeline for a project. Then there's a time to use emotional intelligence - using
leadership skills, for instance, to get those people to make that timeline and
project happen.
Emotional intelligence means using all your faculties, including logic and reason,
to bring about results that are favorable. It means having the flexibility and
creativity to see alternatives.
Say you're presented with a highly-charged emotional situation, for instance.
You're furious with your partner and would like to hit him. Your EQ would tell
you to manage that emotion, to stop and think. Your "thinking brain" would then
consider the possible consequences of your act -- seriously hurting him, going
to jail, harming the relationship irreparably, feeling shame and guilt afterwards,
and other things that are not in your best interest. At the same time, you could
use your empathy to try and see things from their point of view.
There are times when logic does need to take a back seat, for instance when we
need to use our hearts in managing a misbehaving toddler. Logic and reason aren't
of much use with a two year old. They also aren't of much use in figuring out
the big questions in life, like why bad things happen to good people.
Emotional intelligence means managing emotions so you can take action in the best
interest of all concerned. This also requires using your thinking brain!
(c)Courtesy, Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach
Site: www.susandunn.cc , Email:
sdunn@susandunn.cc
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Women's
Weight Loss Problems Solved - Finally!
By Phil Beckett
When the term
weight loss enters your mind, one of the first things you may think about is a
strict diet. This will
actually cause you additional weight loss problems. Your body can't discriminate
between intentional calorie deprivation (as in a diet), and starvation.
When you diet you will lose fat and muscle. This decrease in muscle mass will
cause your metabolism to slow down meaning you will burn fewer and fewer fat calories.
This is of course very bad news.
This does happen naturally and in most women will start around your mid 20's or
so. Your metabolic rate will decrease by around five percent each decade of your
life. So as you age, weight loss becomes tougher and tougher.
If you have ever gone on a diet you already know that the weight comes back faster
and faster the more you diet. It's a vicious cycle. You may notice some weight
loss success, but this is usually just muscle and water not fat, then it comes
back with a vengeance very quickly. In fact over 95% of women who "diet" will
put all the weight back on plus at least an extra five pounds.
A lot of women seem to have difficulty with the commitment it takes; don't grasp
the importance of progression and versatility; and lack the personal accountability
to achieve their goals, which inevitably leads to weight loss disappointment.
Why? Three reasons:
1. Bad information
2. It's easy to cheat yourself, and…
3. No guidance.
Now, introducing the weight loss secret of periodization & progressive resistance.
Have you ever met someone who says they exercise week after week, month after
month, even year after year and still can't see any dramatic weight loss? Believe
it or not, doing the same workout over and over will actually decrease your chances
of reaching your weight loss objective.
You must learn how to progressively improve and fine-tune your efforts for maximum
weight loss and fitness results. When it comes to weight loss for women it's important
to understand all phases of exercise, nutrition, and supplementation and how it
all fits together. This is basically defined as linear method of periodization.
Periodization for weight loss in women is the regulation of exercise, nutrition,
and supplementation into basic workable units. Every exercise session has to have
some sort of meaning. There should be a definite training goal in mind. Your goal
for a particular workout may be to perform one more repetition than last time,
or to lift five more pounds.
The problem is that many workout programs for women's weight loss don't have a
specific purpose that will lead to the short or long-term goals of you have. Weight
loss for you is the end result while periodization is how you get there. All exercise,
nutrition, and supplementation chosen has to fulfill a purpose related to your
ultimate weight loss target.
For a weight loss program to be effective there has to be a recruitment of a number
of different training sessions that consist of different types of workouts. This
periodization cycle must have specific meaning and purpose. Over the complete
term of a women's weight loss exercise program there are many different types
of cycles including initiation, foundation, maximal strength recuperative and
accumulation cycle, hypertrophy phase, basic strength, peak phase and a transition
phase.
This is a very important aspect of weight loss for women that many coaches and
personal trainers overlook. Certain cycles are intended to prepare the muscles
for an upcoming training session. Other cycles are designed around shocking the
body into new growth and adaptation. This shock can come in many forms and can
range from taking a week off to a high volume training cycle. Each cycle is designed
with one specific purpose. The length of time for each cycle will vary.
Without taking the time to develop a solid foundation any gains will not be possible.
Periodization can be designed a number of different ways and all are intended
to bring out the highest level of weight loss success. A lack of structure is
why many women are destined to fail in their weight loss program.
Without periodization you'll be "spinning your wheels" for years. Phil Beckett
is the author of The New Women's Guide To Successful Weight Loss & Fitness. He's
helped thousands of women with their weight loss & fitness goals over the past
14 years.
Visit www.womens-health-fitness.com
to contact Phil
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