Denial
Author: Jan Bobbitt, © 2000 - 2001
I've suffered through
the pain of others living in it, I've studied it through every means feasible
to me, I have even found to my disappointment - myself doing it too. But
what is this monster really?
Denial, there are some who believe that "ignorance is bliss" and perhaps
on some level that is true. "What you don't know won't hurt you," is another
common belief or saying that has been passed down from unhealthy generation
to unhealthy generation. Think of the perpetrator of abuse or of the adult
victim who opts to remain living in hell regardless of what the environment
is doing to them or to the children. For these people ignorance is bliss,
if you define bliss as living within the mental confines of ignorance and
emotional/mental suffocation.
Some people enter the world of drugs/alcohol/sex for an escape, their own
private form of denial. Some delve into the world of religion, centering
their denial and 'lack of control' on everything that happens being 'god's
will.' I'm sure there are other escapes from reality that are abused by
the common denier, the person who will say and do anything to avoid facing
the honest, true facts of their lives. There is displaced blame/guilt, excessively
irresponsible behaviors and thought processes, there is over eating, over
sleeping, over partying (with or without drugs/sex/alcohol).
The list seems endless, I could fill this page. The bottom line, in my opinion,
is that deniers will do/say/be anything as long as they don't have to face
the reality of their life situation. Deniers love to blame others instead
of just getting off their asses and doing something themselves to end their
poor situations. What is this monster called Denial? It is the epitome of
suffering itself, it is the fuel for abuse, and it is the negatives you
live with covered over by lies, misconceptions, and deceit.
Denial? It is the devil's dessert after a meal of your soul.
Copyright 2000 - 2001
by Jan Bobbitt
Jan is a survivor of domestic violence during childhood and is now a freelance
writer. You can visit Jan's website, Tainted Thoughts, at http://TaintedThoughts.homestead.com
for additional articles and resources concerning abuse survival
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